Posts Tagged Under adoption

April 5th, 2011

All Babies Come With A “Backstory”

By Jaker1983Most days, Mateo takes the bus to kindergarten, but sometimes we drive so we can read together in the classroom for 15 minutes before school begins. I chat with the other mothers on the playground as we watch our kids jump and run, their little bodies radiating energy and happiness. At the sound of the bell, the teacher, Ms. S, emerges from the classroom and the kids fall into an orderly line. Ms. S has been teaching kindergarten for more than 20 years. She knows how to set a tone.

This morning, the excitement is especially high. Ms. S’s oldest daughter, a married woman who lives back East, is pregnant, due to deliver any minute. I know this because all week Mateo has been telling me, “Ms. S is about to become a grandma!”

As the kids file into the classroom and Ms. S is telling us about her daughter’s long and seemingly endless labor, her cell phone rings. “Oh, oh, oh!” Ms. S spins in a circle as she flips open her phone. “It might be news!”

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January 13th, 2010

The Blind Date

blind-dateI met my husband of 30 years on a blind date. David was 24 and a bartender at a chic Sausalito discotheque. I was 21.

As the night wore on, David repeatedly offered me tequila-laden margaritas. By closing time, I was in his arms and agreeing to join him at his swanky apartment in Sausalito for a game of cards.

The next morning, I woke to get dressed and kiss him goodbye. As I grabbed my purse to leave, he asked for my phone number and promised to call soon. Sure enough, he did. After a first date of pizza and a movie, we saw each other with more frequency. Before I knew it, our whirlwind romance had turned into a year-long engagement.

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February 17th, 2009

China, Get Your Adoption Shit Together

When you think about it – China has always been an anomaly.

A power-hungry, deeply insecure and insanely controlling government that actually cared enough about their parent-less children to give them to those who deeply longed to be their parents.

Not anymore.

Now the government is saying that with some sixty-five hundred Chinese children adopted annually, they are running out of babies and kids to give away.

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November 14th, 2008

The Way It Began

It all started with a photo of a cute Chinese baby, about eight-months old, in a too-large blue silk robe. She was the just-adopted daughter of my husband’s friend, Nancy.

“Would you like to do that?” my then-boyfriend asked? “Yes, yes, I would!” I instantly replied.

You see, I had wanted a baby for a long time. Ever since the end of my first marriage I had pursued that dream, and it had taken me down some strange and crooked pathways.

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