Comments on: Ferberizing Your Young Adult http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/ When you are a mother, you have a lot to write about Fri, 27 Jan 2012 05:53:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: blue shield http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/comment-page-1/#comment-1329 blue shield Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:09:05 +0000 http://www.writingmamas.com/?p=1419#comment-1329 Dr. Ferber says that he will be revising his book because some parts need to be updated. For instance, he says new research suggests that babies don’t need as much sleep as he originally advised. And he wants to clarify that his crying technique was targeted at a specific problem: the child who can fall asleep only while being rocked or held. While he still presents this approach in his new edition, he says he tells parents they can use gradual steps to wean a child off of rocking and soothing behaviors. And he clarifies that some children such as those suffering from anxiety will not be helped by the crying method. Dr. Ferber says that he will be revising his book because some parts need to be updated. For instance, he says new research suggests that babies don’t need as much sleep as he originally advised. And he wants to clarify that his crying technique was targeted at a specific problem: the child who can fall asleep only while being rocked or held. While he still presents this approach in his new edition, he says he tells parents they can use gradual steps to wean a child off of rocking and soothing behaviors. And he clarifies that some children such as those suffering from anxiety will not be helped by the crying method.

]]> By: lesbienne hd http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/comment-page-1/#comment-1091 lesbienne hd Sat, 19 Dec 2009 20:33:25 +0000 http://www.writingmamas.com/?p=1419#comment-1091 Well, the article is actually the freshest on this laudable topic. I harmonize with your conclusions and will eagerly look forward to your incoming updates. Saying thanks will not just be enough, for the exceptional clarity in your writing. I will immediately grab your rss feed to stay privy of any updates. De lightful work and much success in your business efforts! Well, the article is actually the freshest on this laudable topic. I harmonize with your conclusions and will eagerly look forward to your incoming updates. Saying thanks will not just be enough, for the exceptional clarity in your writing. I will immediately grab your rss feed to stay privy of any updates. De lightful work and much success in your business efforts!

]]> By: Chris http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/comment-page-1/#comment-1043 Chris Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:20:55 +0000 http://www.writingmamas.com/?p=1419#comment-1043 Anji, did you ever think that your Ferberized child might be the least confident and the least independent of your 4, BECAUSE you treated the other three different? Just sayin......Also, Ferber didn't renounce his method....he updated it. It's still basically the same, just less conservative, probably for more book sales. Anji, did you ever think that your Ferberized child might be the least confident and the least independent of your 4, BECAUSE you treated the other three different? Just sayin……Also, Ferber didn’t renounce his method….he updated it. It’s still basically the same, just less conservative, probably for more book sales.

]]> By: Anji http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/comment-page-1/#comment-892 Anji Fri, 31 Jul 2009 02:07:51 +0000 http://www.writingmamas.com/?p=1419#comment-892 Dr. Ferber, 61, says that he has been largely misunderstood. When he first published his book in 1985, "there weren't any others," he says. The book, which has been reprinted 45 times, contains advice on a range of sleep issues, from bed-wetting to teens who can't get up for school on time. But he is most known for his signature controlled-crying method, which involves leaving a baby alone in the crib to cry for progressively longer intervals until he or she falls asleep. Parents are instructed to go into the room at the end of each interval to console -- but not touch or pick up -- the child. Dr. Ferber, who is also director of the Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital in Boston, says that now, "we've had a lot more experience. There really are a lot of different ways" for children to learn good sleep habits. Dr. Ferber says that he will be revising his book because some parts need to be updated. For instance, he says new research suggests that babies don't need as much sleep as he originally advised. And he wants to clarify that his crying technique was targeted at a specific problem: the child who can fall asleep only while being rocked or held. While he still presents this approach in his new edition, he says he tells parents they can use gradual steps to wean a child off of rocking and soothing behaviors. And he clarifies that some children such as those suffering from anxiety will not be helped by the crying method. Dr. Ferber, 61, says that he has been largely misunderstood. When he first published his book in 1985, “there weren’t any others,” he says. The book, which has been reprinted 45 times, contains advice on a range of sleep issues, from bed-wetting to teens who can’t get up for school on time. But he is most known for his signature controlled-crying method, which involves leaving a baby alone in the crib to cry for progressively longer intervals until he or she falls asleep. Parents are instructed to go into the room at the end of each interval to console — but not touch or pick up — the child.

Dr. Ferber, who is also director of the Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children’s Hospital in Boston, says that now, “we’ve had a lot more experience. There really are a lot of different ways” for children to learn good sleep habits.

Dr. Ferber says that he will be revising his book because some parts need to be updated. For instance, he says new research suggests that babies don’t need as much sleep as he originally advised. And he wants to clarify that his crying technique was targeted at a specific problem: the child who can fall asleep only while being rocked or held. While he still presents this approach in his new edition, he says he tells parents they can use gradual steps to wean a child off of rocking and soothing behaviors. And he clarifies that some children such as those suffering from anxiety will not be helped by the crying method.

]]> By: Anji http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/comment-page-1/#comment-891 Anji Fri, 31 Jul 2009 01:58:43 +0000 http://www.writingmamas.com/?p=1419#comment-891 In addition, Ferber had some definite thoughts about parents sleeping with their newborns, or what he termed as bed sharing. In 1985 he wrote, “Sleeping alone is an important part of [your child’s] learning to be able to separate from you without anxiety and to see himself [or herself] as an independent individual.” In a recent Newsweek interview Ferber said, “That’s the one sentence I wish I never wrote. It was describing the general thinking of the time, but it was not describing my own experience or philosophy”. http://www.healthplans.com/articledetails.php?articleid=6042 In addition, Ferber had some definite thoughts about parents sleeping with their newborns, or what he termed as bed sharing. In 1985 he wrote, “Sleeping alone is an important part of [your child’s] learning to be able to separate from you without anxiety and to see himself [or herself] as an independent individual.”

In a recent Newsweek interview Ferber said, “That’s the one sentence I wish I never wrote. It was describing the general thinking of the time, but it was not describing my own experience or philosophy”.
http://www.healthplans.com/articledetails.php?articleid=6042

]]> By: Anji http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/comment-page-1/#comment-890 Anji Fri, 31 Jul 2009 01:52:50 +0000 http://www.writingmamas.com/?p=1419#comment-890 Too bad even Dr. Ferber renounced this method after having a child of his own. I find my oldest, now 15, who I used the "Ferber Method" on before I knew better is actually the least confident and the least independent of my four children. I used attachment parenting with the other three. Too bad even Dr. Ferber renounced this method after having a child of his own. I find my oldest, now 15, who I used the “Ferber Method” on before I knew better is actually the least confident and the least independent of my four children. I used attachment parenting with the other three.

]]> By: Svetlana http://www.writingmamas.com/2009/07/ferberizing-your-young-adult/comment-page-1/#comment-879 Svetlana Tue, 21 Jul 2009 03:39:29 +0000 http://www.writingmamas.com/?p=1419#comment-879 Oh, Lorrie...Good writing, and good decision. I am struggling with Faberizing my 10 year old (love this concept applied to non-babies, thanks!), and sometimes I wonder if it gets easier once he gets older. Your blog made me wonder if my struggles now are nothing but resilency training for more things to come in the future... Thank you for writing this. Oh, Lorrie…Good writing, and good decision. I am struggling with Faberizing my 10 year old (love this concept applied to non-babies, thanks!), and sometimes I wonder if it gets easier once he gets older. Your blog made me wonder if my struggles now are nothing but resilency training for more things to come in the future… Thank you for writing this.

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